Build Better Boundaries With Inner Child Work

Build Better Boundaries With Inner Child Work

Kathy Huynh

Cybele Botran is a teacher, a SHE RECOVERS® and Holistic coach, and owner and founder of Wide Awake Recovery. View profile

Do you struggle with setting clear boundaries? 

When you listen to your inner child, it will become easier to set boundaries.

Many women struggle with boundaries.

Do other people overwhelm you? You may be holding on to the misunderstanding that you have to do everything for everyone else.

Is it hard to say no? You may believe that saying no makes you unlikeable.

Are you always busy? Perhaps you believe you have to hustle to feel valuable.

Do other people not listen to you? This is an opportunity to listen to yourself.

Are you hypersensitive to criticism? Cultivating self-love for your inner child will help you increase your self-esteem.


There is nothing wrong with you.

By creating a relationship with your inner child, you will begin to let go of the idea that there is something wrong with you. Remembering, reconnecting, and reparenting your inner child will help you shed shame and guilt from past behaviors.

As a child, you may have believed that approval was a necessary way to feel safety, love, and belonging. As an adult, you can meet your own needs through inner child work. Once you no longer rely on others for your sense of self-worth, your ability to set clear boundaries will dramatically improve.

Inner child work builds self-esteem.

A core need for children is to be seen and heard. As a child, you probably did not have the maturity to process emotions on your own. As adults, we have the opportunity to listen to ourselves and lovingly take care of our own needs. The deep and authentic connection with your little girl will help you stand up for yourself.

Once you build a connection with your inner child, setting boundaries becomes second nature. Just like a mama bear protects her baby cub, you too will intuitively know how to protect your tender, sweet self.


Inner child work improves self-awareness.

Inner child work is about noticing. When you begin to listen inside, you will notice your inner-critic. When you become aware of your inner-critic, you have the choice to respond to yourself differently.

With intentional practice, you can gradually transform your inner-critic into a loving, supportive voice. By speaking to yourself with a loving voice, you self-soothe and calm your nervous system.


Your inner child needs you.

Accessing your inner child is a practice. You may begin by finding a sweet childhood photograph of yourself. Place it in a spot where you can see it each day, perhaps on your desk or dresser mirror. Another way to become more conscious of your inner child is to pause throughout the day and check-in with her to see how she feels. When emotions arise, pause, and ask her what she wants, needs, and feels. While pausing, you may want to gently place your hands on your cheeks, cupping your chin. This will give you a soothing feeling of being held and loved.

Finally, you may connect with your inner child during quiet meditation. By getting still and listening inside, we are better able to hear our inner child’s voice.

By looking at a childhood photograph of yourself, pausing to listen to your inner child, and practicing quiet meditation, you will gradually become aware of what your inner child is feeling and thinking. This will take time. Inner child work is a practice.


Boundaries start on the inside, not the outside.

You may have believed that boundary setting is about building walls to protect yourself. Or perhaps you thought boundary work is about changing others and making them do what you want.

Setting clear boundaries starts by going inside. By doing inner work, we get clear about what is important to us. We learn to listen to our own needs and become effective communicators. By checking in with our inner child, it becomes obvious when we need to set a boundary.

Setting boundaries becomes easy because we want to protect our inner child and treat her with love and kindness.


Boundaries protect our capacity to love ourselves and others.

When we become acutely aware of our own inner dialogue, thoughts, and story, we learn how to self-regulate and care for our needs. When we establish clear boundaries, we protect our capacity to love ourselves and others.

When we take care of our own needs for safety, love, and belonging, we no longer rely on others to meet our needs. Inner child work is a beautiful way for women to build better boundaries. 

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When you listen to your inner child, it will become easier to set boundaries. 

    • Many women struggle with boundaries. 
    • There is nothing wrong with you. 
    • Inner child work builds self-esteem. 
    • Inner child work improves self-awareness.
    • Your inner child needs you. 
    • Boundaries start on the inside, not the outside. 
    • Boundaries protect our capacity to love ourselves and others

The content in this article is for informational purposes only and is not intended as legal, tax, investment, financial, medical or other advice.  Always seek the advice of a licensed professional regarding any questions you may have.  

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(Realistic) Self-Care For Mompreneurs

(Realistic) Self-Care For Mompreneurs

Olivia is a business and marketing coach

Olivia Radcliffe is a business and marketing coach. She is the Founder & CEO of The Bluebell Group.  View profile

In a society where no one wears just one “hat” and people are continually pushed for constant productivity, taking the time to practice self-care has never been more important. 

It’s a complete irony, then, that most people protest at the idea because they don’t feel they have enough time in their busy schedules for self-care. 

As a single mom with a baby and a business and no child care (thanks, pandemic!), I’m continually inundated with self-care tips by well-meaning friends and family members. While I do greatly appreciate the love behind the suggestions, their recommendations tend to be woefully unrealistic. 

Take a long bath? Sit by myself with some tea? Meditate in a quiet room for half an hour? Ha! My 11-month-old son is a walking, climbing, exploring giggle machine. As nice as it would be, this mama certainly isn’t sneaking away for a steamy soak anytime soon. And when he’s napping? Well, that’s when the other magic happens, such as running a household and growing a business. 

That being said, I do believe whole-heartedly in the importance of self-care. Here are 5 ways I’ve incorporated self-care into my routine (sans face masks and bubbles).

1. Practice positive self-talk

Self-care is so much more than something you do for an hour or two each week. Self-care is a way of life and includes how you relate to yourself throughout the day with your inner dialogue.

Self-talk can be positive or negative. Focusing on increasing your positive self-talk can help reduce stress and improve your overall quality of life. Take a moment and assess your inner dialogue. Are you more negative or positive? What situations bring out the negative side? What can you do to avoid those situations or alter the inner dialogue to be more positive?

I’ve found that pausing and being intentional about what I was thinking and feeling towards myself in stressful situations, surrounding myself with positive people, and strategically placing some choice affirmations around the house has gone a long way towards building a habit of positive self-talk and decreasing my stress. 


2. Laugh often

Cat videos, TikTok stunts, a comedy special on Netflix – take time to do whatever it takes to get you giggling. According to HelpGuide, laughter strengthens your immune system, boosts your mood, diminishes pain, and protects you from the damaging effects of stress (and, as an added bonus, it burns calories, too!).

Long ago, I developed a trick of looking at less-than-desirable circumstances through the lens of a TV sitcom (think Ross’ spray tan disaster). Now I’m able to laugh during times that normally would have prompted me to hide in my closet with a box of PopTarts.

3. Give it (and yourself) a rest

As entrepreneurs, we’re busy. As moms, we’re even busier. Multitasking is more than a skill, it’s a survival technique. But a key component to self-care (and to success in general) is the need to embrace the fact that sometimes the best way to get ahead is to stop. 

For example, a lot of times I’ll continue to work after I put my baby to bed. But there are also times when I know I’m too mentally/emotionally/physically exhausted to be very productive and I curl up in bed with a book or catch up on a show instead. 

There can be a lot of guilt associated with taking that time to do “nothing,” or maybe even a feeling of laziness or a sense of missing out on opportunities. But, in reality, taking a moment to stop the continual hustle and reset allows us to be more productive the rest of the time. 

4. Create a “Hype File”

Often, we get so caught up in keeping up with all of our tasks that we forget to celebrate our accomplishments. 

A Hype File is a place for you to write down and store screenshots, emails, texts, etc. that highlight and represent your accomplishments. 

If you got a glowing review, put it in your Hype File! Get a compliment on your outfit? Put it in your Hype File! Get the kiddos to eat their veggies? Hype File!

Then when you’re feeling down, you can take a glance at your Hype File and see immediate proof of how amazing you are and how much you accomplish each and every day. 

5. Take small, immediate actions

I have three questions for you: 

  1. How do you want to feel each day? 
  2. What makes you feel that way?
  3. What small, immediate changes can you make to feel that way daily? 

For example, let’s say you want to feel luxurious on a daily basis. Going on a spa weekend makes you feel luxurious. But, that’s not generally something you can do often, so what can you take from a spa weekend to add to your daily routine? Maybe you could buy some fluffy spa-quality towels, a calming scented candle for your desk, and make a pitcher of cucumber lemon water to drink throughout the day. 

Or, if you want to feel successful, you could redecorate your workspace and buy a guided daily planner and a special pen to use. 

These small acts that can be implemented immediately will help you be intentional about how you want to feel. 

When it comes down to it, self-care is all about you. What works for someone else might not work for you, but that’s the beauty of self-care. While bubble baths and yoga classes most definitely have their time and place, self-care in essence is really more about developing an intentional relationship with yourself and showing up for yourself with the kindness and love you share with others throughout the day.


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  • In a society where no one wears just one “hat” and people are continually pushed for constant productivity, taking the time to practice self-care has never been more important.
  • Self-care is a way of life and includes how you relate to yourself throughout the day with your inner dialogue.
  • Laughter strengthens your immune system, boosts your mood, diminishes pain, and protects you from the damaging effects of stress.
  • A key component to self-care (and to success in general) is the need to embrace the fact that sometimes the best way to get ahead is to stop. 
  • A Hype File is a place for you to write down and store screenshots, emails, texts, etc. that highlight and represent your accomplishments.
  • Small acts that can be implemented immediately will help you be intentional about how you want to feel.

The content in this article is for informational purposes only and is not intended as legal, tax, investment, financial, medical or other advice.  Always seek the advice of a licensed professional regarding any questions you may have.  

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It’s Mind Over Matter

It’s Mind Over Matter

Angela is a medical student at Touro College of Osteopathic Medicine

Angela Ho is a medical student and doesn’t give up. She’s all about spreading love and light into the universe View profile

Life is always trying to teach you something. Any situation, problem or person that is bringing you discomfort is meant to challenge you. Growing is uncomfortable. Learning can be uncomfortable, but it’s all about your mindset and how you decide to look at these situations.

Anything that annoys you is teaching you patience. Anything you can’t control is teaching you how to let go. Anything that has power over you is teaching you how to take your power back.

Anyone who abandons you is teaching you how to stand on your own two feet. Anything that upsets you is teaching you forgiveness and compassion.

Every time we encounter some kind of obstacle, whether it’s someone saying something mean or challenging your capabilities, life is trying to teach us something. The way we decide to perceive these challenges is up to us. You can blame the world for your problems or you can look at it from a gratuitous perspective.

It’s all about your mindset.

Do you accept the situation at face value? Or do you do something about it? 

It’s mind over matter. Always. 

Here are a few life lessons that I’ve learned along the way. Each situation poses different challenges; however, as many say, it’s not about what happens to you, but how you react to it that matters. 


Love and accept yourself. Your body is your sanctuary. 

People can say whatever they want to say. Their opinions are none of your business. 

Growing up in Vietnamese culture, the ideal way a woman should look: light-skin, big eyes, small nose, and petite. The women in my immediate family do not look like that. We are more “voluptuous” than your typical Asian female physique. My mother has big hips and like mom, all her daughters have wide-set hips as well. 

One day, I was going into a Vietnamese store to pick up wedding invitations. The saleswoman said “you’re so pretty, but you would be so much prettier if you were skinnier.” A complete stranger told me this. Did it bother me? Absolutely. Did it affect the way I thought of myself? No. Why? As a woman in society and growing up Vietnamese, we are told that we are not enough much too often – not pretty enough, not smart enough, not thin enough…the list goes on and on. 

Self-love. Self-respect. Self-care. There’s a reason why these all start with “self.” You can’t find them anywhere else, but within you.

Self-love is something that cannot be taught, which makes it all the more difficult to learn. We all struggle with self-esteem and it’s often easier to notice the things we hate about ourselves instead of the things we love. Embrace yourself. Your body, your curves, your tummy, your love handles… and most importantly your intellect. 

Be confident. Your unique characteristics are what make you beautiful – what makes you different; what makes you UNIQUE. OWN IT. You are beautiful just the way you are! 

You are worthy of everything you’ve ever dreamed of and MORE. 

Never let anyone hinder you from pursuing your dreams. All dreams can come true, if you have the courage to pursue them! 

My parents have always told me that I could be anything, do anything my heart desired and they would support it. Now, I’m not sure if that’s 100% true as most Asian parents hope their children will become doctors, lawyers, or dentists. And I just happen to be studying medicine; but nonetheless, this is my dream and I am working to make it come true. 

I have been told that I shouldn’t be a doctor. That I’m only nice to patients because I get paid. That I am not worthy of the jobs that I have been given. That I will never make it into medical school. That I could never graduate early. That I am too strong. That I am too confident. That I am too ambitious. Sure, there is always room for improvement. However, if I believed any of these statements, I would have succumbed to the limitations set by others and never gotten to where I am today. 

Don’t ever let anyone discourage you. You are absolutely worthy and deserving of everything you’ve ever wished for. Just keep doing you and work hard to reach your goals. People will hate and that’s okay. Smile and move on. 

The road may not be easy, but anything that’s worth anything never is. Dream big, work hard and make your dreams come to fruition. You will make it through! 

There are no limitations to what we can do. The limitations are set in our minds. 

My parents escaped Vietnam after the Vietnam War, often referred to as ’the boat people’ because they escaped on a boat in the middle of the night to avoid being caught by the Communist government. Each escaped separately from different parts of Central Vietnam and both ended up in the same refugee camp in Hong Kong.

My dad saw mom from across the camp, too shy to say hello, but admired her from a distance. I guess you can call it fate. Both were transferred to a refugee camp in the Philippines and eventually sponsored to America. My dad was sponsored to Minnesota and Mom was sponsored to California. My dad worked and spent his savings to fly to California and be with my mom.

Together, they built a business, raised four daughters, put them all through college, allowing us to pursue our dreams. If that isn’t the American dream, then I don’t know what is. Because of my parents, I’ve had the privilege to graduate from my dream school and now pursuing a career in medicine. 

Hundreds of thousands of people died attempting to escape Vietnam during that time. Many didn’t make it to land and most died in the ocean en route to a country that would accept Vietnamese refugees. Family members were tortured and killed by the Vietnamese government if they knew of someone escaping and didn’t report them. 

The risk my parents took to flee a country in pursuit of a better life displays not just their bravery, but courage, tenacity and grit. No one paved the way for either of them. But together, they paved their own path and have laid the foundation for many generations to come. 

Life has no limitations, except the ones you make. If there is a will, there is a way. 

Our mindsets affect our actions, our perspectives and our experiences. We are only human. There will always be challenges to overcome. If it doesn’t challenge you, it doesn’t change you. We are forever evolving into hopefully, better versions of ourselves everyday. My dad always says that life is a battlefield. And it is, but we must learn to hold and use our own swords. We are strong enough to face it all, even if it doesn’t feel like it right now. 

Tell yourself: I know you’re doing the best you can. I believe in you. Keep going. 

Our life is shaped by our mind, for we become what we think.   

growth versus fixed mindset

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  • Every time we encounter some kind of obstacle, whether it’s someone saying something mean or challenging your capabilities, life is trying to teach us something.
  • It’s mind over matter. Always. 
  • Love yourself and accept yourself. Your body is your sanctuary. 
  • You are worthy of everything you’ve ever dreamed of and more. 
  • There are no limitations to what we can do. The limitations are set in our minds. 

The content in this article is for informational purposes only and is not intended as legal, tax, investment, financial, medical or other advice.  Always seek the advice of a licensed professional regarding any questions you may have.  

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Quitting Drinking – An Empowering Lifestyle Choice For Women

Quitting Drinking – An Empowering Lifestyle Choice For Women

Isabelle Griffith

Gayle Macdonald is a teacher, sobriety coach, addiction therapist and founder and owner of Sober BlissView profile

I quit drinking in March 2018, after many years of being stuck in an endless cycle of guilt, shame and regret. That wonderful day when I finally said goodbye to alcohol was the best decision I have ever made and I have since helped many other women break free from the hold that alcohol had over their lives. Choosing to live alcohol free truly is a transformational and empowering experience, I can’t recommend it highly enough.

Alcohol is really bad for us

You don’t need to read the report co-written by professor David Nutt that was published in the Lancet, to know that alcohol is bad for us. The article states that there is no safe level of alcohol which makes sense. Alcohol is a poison and if you have ever suffered the effects of a hangover, drunken behavior, heart wrenching shame, guilt and anxiety because of your drinking, then it stands to reason that when you no longer imbibe this toxic substance, you begin to feel better as the benefits of alcohol free living begin to emerge. 

The benefits of quitting drinking

 Some of the most talked about benefits of quitting drinking are:

  • Better sleep
  • Clearer skin
  • More energy
  • Weight loss
  • More focus and concentration
  • More time
  • More money
  • Improved relationships

However it is the emotional benefits which are the most transformational and empowering:

  • A feeling that you can do anything
  • Decrease in anxiety
  • Freedom from thinking about drinking
  • A return to self
  • Increased self confidence
  • A feeling of freedom and liberation
  • Gratitude
  • A lightness in spirit and mind

How to quit drinking

Become aware of your current situation

Mindfulness and awareness are the first steps in removing alcohol from your life. In order to make changes in our life we need to be clear about where we are first. Be super curious and honest here.

How is your drinking affecting you?

How much money are you spending on alcohol?

How does alcohol make you feel, before, during and after drinking?

Why are you drinking?

How is alcohol serving you?

What do you want to achieve by drinking?

It is also important not to feel bad about your answers, yes of course there will be feelings and emotions that are triggered by your findings, but do not beat yourself up. Use what you discover to motivate you to take the steps towards change. Your drinking behavior  is not who you are.

Get clear on your why

Having a strong, deep and meaningful reason to change your relationship with alcohol will help you to get started and stay on your path.

Why do you want to do this?

What do want to achieve?

How do you want to feel?

What do you want to do?

Really listening to your body, mind and spirit will help you to connect with your true self and make the reason for quitting drinking deep and true. Once you know deep down why you are taking this step, and I mean really feel it, then there will be no need for struggle and willpower.

Create a vision for your alcohol free life

Once you have a reason for quitting drinking, think about how your life will be when you are finally living alcohol free. What will your life look, taste, smell, sound and feel like? Really connect to these emotions, especially when you find the going tricky. When you connect to yourself and your deeper why, you find the strength and courage to keep going.

Go a step further and visualize your future self living your alcohol free dream life or create a vision board full of positive quotes and images that represent your alcohol free life in all its glory! Come back to this vision often and connect to the emotions that the vision evokes. As, the saying goes, if you can dream it (and feel it) you can live it.

Make a commitment to yourself

Every day commit to this new way of living. You know alcohol does not serve you. Say a prayer, repeat positive affirmations, connect to your dreams and the emotions that come with living free, clean and healthy.

Focus on what you are gaining, always.

Focus on what you are gaining instead of what you think you are missing out on. If you find yourself romanticizing that glass of wine, play the movie forward, focus on what you will gain by not giving in to your craving. No hangovers, better sleep, a feeling of achievement and complete freedom, are just some of the benefits we mentioned above.

Love and honor yourself physically and emotionally

Make your self-care a priority. Walk in nature, meditate, do yoga, pause and breathe deeply, eat well, sleep lots, do things that light you up and fill you with joy, journal, exercise, cry, connect. These activities and strategies will form part of your sober tool kit and will help you through difficult situations or when you find yourself suffering cravings.

Listen to your body and your spirit and do the right thing, the things that nourish your body and soul. Every. Single. Day.

Ask for help when you need it

If you find yourself struggling, or if you feel alone, reach out. Phone a trusted friend, connect to other sober folk in your area, or join a support group. There will always be someone there to listen or to offer words of comfort and encouragement. Don’t wait until things get too much. The moment you feel you need help, that is when you should ask for it.

Alcohol is a poison that seeps into every level of our being. If you have been drinking for a long time, it can be hard to imagine a life without it. But, it is possible to break free from the hold that alcohol has over your life. Not only is it possible, it is the most profound act of self-care and self-love. When you find freedom from drinking, your whole world will open up.  It is as if you are seeing things for the first time. It is truly a powerful transformational experience and will empower you to finally live your life how you have always dreamed.

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  • Alcohol affects every part of our life and the lives of our loved ones.
  • There is no safe level of alcohol.
  • Understand your current situation. If alcohol is making you unhappy, or getting in the way of you living the life you want, then now is the time to let go.
  • Dig deep, understand why you want to have a break from alcohol and connect to this reason often.
  • Create a vision for your alcohol free life and really connect to what it means to you. How do you want to feel?
  • Be kind to yourself and show yourself love and kindness every day.
  • Start to build a sober toolbox full of techniques, activities and strategies that can help you overcome cravings and stay on your path.
  • Ask for help if you are struggling or need some extra support.

Quitting drinking can be difficult, but with the right tools and support, breaking free from alcohol is the most liberating and empowering choice you will ever make.

If you are physically dependent on alcohol, then stopping abruptly can be very dangerous. Please consult your doctor before going alcohol free if you are concerned or worried.

The information in this article is not intended to be a substitute for professional medical advice, diagnosis or treatment.  Always seek the advice of your healthcare provider regarding any questions you may have about any medical condition. 

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What’s Your Body Type And How To Dress It

What’s Your Body Type And How To Dress It

Kim Hancher

Kim Hancher is a Style Coach who teaches women how to create their unique style and dress their body type.  View profile

You put on the same baggy, ill-fitting clothes you always wear, in an attempt to hide the part of your body that you don’t like. As if the extra yards of fabric will make it go away. You think, “no one will notice my (booty, stomach, bust, etc.) now that I’ve covered my entire body.

You look in the mirror and decide the circus tent you’re wearing has got to go, but it’s late and you have an important meeting first thing, so you head out the door. You feel uncomfortable and self-conscious all day, you can’t wait to get home to put on your sweats and sit on the couch where no one can see you. 

Sound familiar? 

What if instead you hopped out of bed, knew exactly what to wear, and put on an outfit that highlighted your best features. You look in the mirror once dressed and think, “I nailed it today.”

You slay every meeting you attend, get compliments from the girls at the office on your look, and you come home feeling invigorated and proud of all that you accomplished.

Sounds better, doesn’t it?

This scenario is attainable, you just need to understand your body type and how to dress it. I can help.

Your body type is based on where you carry your weight, which part of your body is bigger than the others. Once you have identified this, you simply need to balance out or fill up the other parts of your body with clothing so that you look proportional. The goal is to have everything below and above the waist appear to be the same size and to define a waistline. An hourglass shape.

It’s really that simple.


The 5 Body Types

These are the main definitions of body types, of course, some have characteristics of both, but one is usually more dominant. That is the one you should focus on when dressing. 

Straight: No curves, no natural waist, or hips.

Carry Weight on the Bottom: You carry your weight below your waist, larger hips, thighs, and/or booty.

Proportional: Your top and bottom are the same sizes and you have a waistline that goes in between the top and bottom.

Carry Weight on Top: You carry your weight above your waist, usually in your bust, but sometimes you just have broad shoulders.

Carry Weight in the Middle: Your stomach is larger than your hips and/or bust. This is a rare body type, but a lot of people identify with this one as the stomach can be a trouble area for many.


Guidelines for dressing your body type

Now that you’ve identified your body type, how do you dress it? Below are my suggestions for creating a balanced looking body, no matter what type you have. These are not set in stone, just a place to start. Remember the key is to have your top and bottom in close proportion to one another. 

Straight—your top priority is creating a waist and curves for yourself. 

What to Wear:

  • Belts
  • Pencil Skirt
  • Wrap Dress
  • Skinny Pants
  • Tailored Clothing
  • Low Necklines
  • Boxy Tops
  • Strapless Dresses of Tops


What to avoid:

  • Oversized clothing


Carry Weight on the Bottom—you are looking to balance things out by adding volume up top. You want to draw the eye up above your waist.

What to Wear:

  • Fit and Flare Dresses
  • Off the Shoulder Tops
  • Structured Jackets
  • A-line Skirts and Dresses
  • Bold Necklaces
  • Dark Pants


What to Avoid:

  • Bold Patterned Skirts and Pants
  • Tunics
  • Extremely Tight Dresses


Proportional—you want to highlight your curves, not cover them up. 

What to Wear:

  • Tailored Blazers and Jackets
  • Pencil Skirts
  • Wrap Dresses
  • V-Necks
  • High Rise Pants


What to Avoid:

  • Mini Skirts
  • Tent Dresses
  • Pockets at the Hips


Carry Weight on Top–you want to highlight below your waist, filling it out to equal your bust.

What to Wear:

  • Dark Solid Color Tops
  • V-Necks
  • Cowl Necks
  • Bold Patterned Bottoms
  • Wide Leg Trousers
  • Trouser Jeans
  • Wrap Dresses


What to Avoid:

  • Crew Neck Tops
  • Printed Tops
  • Spaghetti Straps
  • Boxy Tops
  • Skinny Jeans
  • Tight Skirts
  • Cropped Jackets


Carry Weight in the middle—focus on highlighting your shoulders and legs.

What to Wear:

  • V-Neck Tops
  • Wrap Dresses
  • Fit and Flare Dresses
  • A-Line Skirts
  • Wide Leg Trousers
  • Flowy Tops
  • Shift Dress


What to Avoid:

  • Tight-fitting tops
  • Leggings
  • Skinny Jeans
  • Baggy Clothing
  • Ruffles


Need more help?

If you’re not sure which body type you are, grab a soft tape measure and measure your hips, waist, and chest at the largest part of each body part. Write down those numbers and head to this website and enter your measurements. This will calculate and then identify your body type. You can then follow the guidelines above to dress with more confidence each day based on your body type.

If there is something that you love to wear, but it’s on the avoid list for your body type, do not be discouraged. Give some of these other suggestions on what to wear a try. See how it looks and makes you feel. If you still really love that forbidden item and it makes you feel good, wear it but perhaps in a modified way based on your new knowledge. This is all about feeling confident in your clothes so that you can show up as the best version of yourself each day. 

If you need further guidance, let me know. I can help you really understand how to dress that beautiful body of yours and create your unique style with 1:1 sessions. You can also follow me on social media and sign up for my email list to continue gathering tips and tricks about creating your own unique style. 


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  • Knowing your body type can help you understand how to best dress your body.
  • Body type is based on where you carry your weight and body proportions.
  • The goal is to have everything below and above the waist appear to be the same size and to define a waistline.
  • There are 5 Body Types (straight, carry weight on the bottom, proportional, carry weight on top, carry weight in the middle).
  • You can dress more confidently by following the dressing your body type guidelines above.

The content in this article is for informational purposes only and is not intended as legal, tax, investment, financial, medical or other advice.  Always seek the advice of a licensed professional regarding any questions you may have.  

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The 12 Universal Laws For Manifesting That No One Talks About

The 12 Universal Laws For Manifesting That No One Talks About

Heather Danielle

Heather Danielle is a certified Psychic Medium, Healer, teacher, and founder of Rise Into Your Power. View profile

Have you been trying to manifest something and it doesn’t seem to be working? You’re doing everything right.  You have your vision board, you’re saying your affirmations like your life depends on it.  But nothing seems to be changing?

I know what can help!

Ever since the movie, The Secret came out back in 2006, the Law of Attraction has become the foundation for amazing manifesting results.  

The issue though, is it’s not the only law of the Universe. We can get so frustrated following LOA, that we forget there are other laws around that we need to put into consideration.

In fact, there are 12 Universal Laws out there.  When you aren’t getting anywhere in your manifesting, you have to look at the other laws. 

They can truly hold the secret to all of your manifesting desires!

These Laws were discovered after we observed how the Universe behaved.  They are the how the Universe is structured and functions.  If you gain more knowledge in these laws, you can better understand how they connect to manifesting.  And with this knowledge, you can without a doubt, create a life beyond your wildest dreams! 

Let’s take a look at each law and see how they can help you make your dreams your reality. They are in no particular order. Let’s start with the most famous law, the Law of Attraction.


Law of Attraction

Like attracts like.

This law reminds us that if we think about something, and we bring it into our reality. If you think about some pretty amazing things, the Universe hears these thoughts, and brings back to you some more of those pretty amazing things.  Ever think, “I don’t have any money!” And then, you become even worse off with money? It’s because the Universe heard you say you don’t have any money.  Since like attracts like, they bring you more of  “no money!” 


Law of Divine Oneness

Everything and everyone is connected. 

This law is super important to understand.  Since everything is connected, that means not one of us is better than or less than anyone else. The number one thing I have seen people do that blocks their manifesting abilities, is not believing in themselves.  We’re powerful spiritual beings!  We can do anything. Keep this Universal Law in your back pocket and watch how quickly things come to fruition for you.


Law of Vibration

Everything is made up of energy and has its own vibrational frequency.

This law is like the brother of Law of Attraction (LOA).  It helps you understand that every single thought, every word or action you make has a frequency.  Then, the LOA processes it and brings you more of that same energy vibration.  That is why it is critical to focus on what you DO want.  If you keep focusing on the good stuff, you’re carrying that vibration and the LOA will come in, and give you more of it. 


Law of Inspired Action

Taking action you’re lead to take.

Inspired means, “In Spirit”.  This is the most critical law that is often forgotten about.  You can’t just write down affirmations and stare at your vision board.  You have to tune in to guidance and take actions that you are guided to take.  How do you know if the action is Spirit lead?  One way to tell is if the action feels good and more often than not, it is something you haven’t done before.


Law of Compensation

You receive what you put out there.  Give freely, get freely.

Ever hear of this one before?  Have you noticed people with a lot of money, giving a lot of money away?  You get more of what you give.  So, if you want more time give more time. 


Law of Cause and Effect

Every action has an equal and opposite reaction.

This is the law where I give Spirit a break.  The truth is every single choice we make has a consequence whether it’s good or bad. So, if something isn’t happening for me, I trust that Spirit will bring it around when they’re able.  It just may mean they cannot do it right now because of the butterfly effect.  HINT: Don’t be sad if this happens to you because the Spirit rewards you with your patience and gives you something even better than you asked for. 


Law of Correspondence

As above, so below.

Your outer world is the reflection of your inner world, and this law reminds us of this.  So, if there is craziness in your outer world, you must change up your inner dialogue and behavior. This will help you excel the manifesting process. 


Law of Polarity

Everything has an opposite.

Imagine a magnet on the good thoughts you have and another on the not so good thoughts. These magnets are trying to connect to one another.  They’re drawn to each other, they can’t help it.  The stronger your connection is to the good thoughts, the further away the other magnet gets.  Hence, the easier it is for you to manifest! 


Law of Rhythm

All things come in cycles.

Know that the Universe is like a pendulum, in constant state of motion with its own natural rhythm.  Your life is like this too.  You’re going to feel down sometimes, people are going to break promises, you’re going to have challenges.  What’s important is for you not to allow your own personal pendulum go too far in either direction. 


Law of Perpetual Transmutation of Energy

Energy is forever moving.

Whenever I am feeling down and need a pick me up, I come to this law.  It helps me stay focused on my desires because it makes me remember that I am not helpless in any situation.  I can change my thoughts and feelings (and attract better vibes!) because energy is constantly moving. The truth is, lower vibrational thoughts (like depression, sadness, etc.) carry their own vibrational frequency.  You can change this by helping the energy get some momentum and move faster.  When this happens, the vibration changes to a higher frequency and therefore, changes those lower vibe thoughts to higher ones.  Love and compassion are the highest vibrating thoughts out there.  Heads up: This is why they say exercise, walking is super good for you. It helps you raise that vibration and become a manifesting magnet! 


Law of Gender

Everything has feminine and masculine energies.

I recently learned that giving is a masculine energy. Crazy, right?  You’d think with how nurturing women are with their family and friends that this would be a feminine trait.  It’s not though.  Receiving is the feminine way.  This is important because you have to remember to have balance.  Noticing if you’re giving too much, and not receiving enough can help you bring to life what you are wanting. 


Law of Relativity

Nothing is good or bad until compared to something else.

I call this the law of judgment.  We judge all of the time.  It doesn’t mean that you’re a snob or a bully.  This is natural for just about every one of us.  We judge things based on our past experience.  Our judgement is everywhere.  (This seat is soft! This music is loud…) Judgements can be compliments too! (She’s super pretty!  He has such a good voice.)  We say these things because we’re comparing them to something else we’ve already experienced.  How can this law help?  By noticing when we do this, and coming back to the place of things “just being.”


Following these laws has helped me manifest my house on a lake, a beautiful office, and my dream job.  Anytime I am at a loss on what to do next, I look back at these and pinpoint which one I am out of balance with.

Which law are you the most drawn to?  Are there any that are standing out to you that you feel that you need to apply right away? 

I’d love to hear from you! 


Short Article Review

  • Twelve Universal Laws were discovered after we observed how the universe behaved.
  • These 12 Laws hold the secrets of manifesting.
  • The brother to the Law of Attraction (Law of Vibration) tells us, everything is made up of energy and has its own vibrational frequency.
  • One of the MOST beneficial Laws to help with manifesting is the Law of Inspired Action.
  • The Law of Compensation shows us the more abundance we give, the more we will get in return.  

The content in this article is for informational purposes only and is not intended as legal, tax, investment, financial, medical or other advice.  Always seek the advice of a licensed professional regarding any questions you may have. 

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