You put on the same baggy, ill-fitting clothes you always wear, in an attempt to hide the part of your body that you don’t like. As if the extra yards of fabric will make it go away. You think, “no one will notice my (booty, stomach, bust, etc.) now that I’ve covered my entire body.

You look in the mirror and decide the circus tent you’re wearing has got to go, but it’s late and you have an important meeting first thing, so you head out the door. You feel uncomfortable and self-conscious all day, you can’t wait to get home to put on your sweats and sit on the couch where no one can see you. 

Sound familiar? 

What if instead you hopped out of bed, knew exactly what to wear, and put on an outfit that highlighted your best features. You look in the mirror once dressed and think, “I nailed it today.”

You slay every meeting you attend, get compliments from the girls at the office on your look, and you come home feeling invigorated and proud of all that you accomplished.

Sounds better, doesn’t it?

This scenario is attainable, you just need to understand your body type and how to dress it. I can help.

Your body type is based on where you carry your weight, which part of your body is bigger than the others. Once you have identified this, you simply need to balance out or fill up the other parts of your body with clothing so that you look proportional. The goal is to have everything below and above the waist appear to be the same size and to define a waistline. An hourglass shape.

It’s really that simple.

The 5 Body Types

These are the main definitions of body types, of course, some have characteristics of both, but one is usually more dominant. That is the one you should focus on when dressing. 

Straight: No curves, no natural waist, or hips.

Carry Weight on the Bottom: You carry your weight below your waist, larger hips, thighs, and/or booty.

Proportional: Your top and bottom are the same sizes and you have a waistline that goes in between the top and bottom.

Carry Weight on Top: You carry your weight above your waist, usually in your bust, but sometimes you just have broad shoulders.

Carry Weight in the Middle: Your stomach is larger than your hips and/or bust. This is a rare body type, but a lot of people identify with this one as the stomach can be a trouble area for many.

Guidelines for dressing your body type

Now that you’ve identified your body type, how do you dress it? Below are my suggestions for creating a balanced looking body, no matter what type you have. These are not set in stone, just a place to start. Remember the key is to have your top and bottom in close proportion to one another. 

Straight—your top priority is creating a waist and curves for yourself. 

What to Wear:

• Belts
• Pencil Skirt
• Wrap Dress
• Skinny Pants
• Tailored Clothing
• Low Necklines
• Boxy Tops
• Strapless Dresses of Tops

What to avoid:

• Oversized clothing

Carry Weight on the Bottom—you are looking to balance things out by adding volume up top. You want to draw the eye up above your waist.

What to Wear:

• Fit and Flare Dresses
• Off the Shoulder Tops
• Structured Jackets
• A-line Skirts and Dresses
• Bold Necklaces
• Dark Pants

What to Avoid:

• Bold Patterned Skirts and Pants
• Tunics
• Extremely Tight Dresses

Proportional—you want to highlight your curves, not cover them up. 

What to Wear:

• Tailored Blazers and Jackets
• Pencil Skirts
• Wrap Dresses
• V-Necks
• High Rise Pants

What to Avoid:

• Mini Skirts
• Tent Dresses
• Pockets at the Hips

Carry Weight on Top–you want to highlight below your waist, filling it out to equal your bust.

What to Wear:

• Dark Solid Color Tops
• V-Necks
• Cowl Necks
• Bold Patterned Bottoms
• Wide Leg Trousers
• Trouser Jeans
• Wrap Dresses

What to Avoid:

• Crew Neck Tops
• Printed Tops
• Spaghetti Straps
• Boxy Tops
• Skinny Jeans
• Tight Skirts
• Cropped Jackets

Carry Weight in the middle—focus on highlighting your shoulders and legs.

What to Wear:

• V-Neck Tops
• Wrap Dresses
• Fit and Flare Dresses
• A-Line Skirts
• Wide Leg Trousers
• Flowy Tops
• Shift Dress

What to Avoid:

• Tight-fitting tops
• Leggings
• Skinny Jeans
• Baggy Clothing
• Ruffles

Need more help?

If you’re not sure which body type you are, grab a soft tape measure and measure your hips, waist, and chest at the largest part of each body part. Write down those numbers and head to this website and enter your measurements. This will calculate and then identify your body type. You can then follow the guidelines above to dress with more confidence each day based on your body type.

If there is something that you love to wear, but it’s on the avoid list for your body type, do not be discouraged. Give some of these other suggestions on what to wear a try. See how it looks and makes you feel. If you still really love that forbidden item and it makes you feel good, wear it but perhaps in a modified way based on your new knowledge. This is all about feeling confident in your clothes so that you can show up as the best version of yourself each day. 

If you need further guidance, let me know. I can help you really understand how to dress that beautiful body of yours and create your unique style with 1:1 sessions. You can also follow me on social media and sign up for my email list to continue gathering tips and tricks about creating your own unique style. 

Short Article Review

• Knowing your body type can help you understand how to best dress your body.
• Body type is based on where you carry your weight and body proportions.
• The goal is to have everything below and above the waist appear to be the same size and to define a waistline.
• There are 5 Body Types (straight, carry weight on the bottom, proportional, carry weight on top, carry weight in the middle).
• You can dress more confidently by following the dressing your body type guidelines above.

The content in this article is for informational purposes only and is not intended as legal, tax, investment, financial, medical or other advice.  Always seek the advice of a licensed professional regarding any questions you may have.  

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Have you been trying to manifest something and it doesn’t seem to be working? You’re doing everything right.  You have your vision board, you’re saying your affirmations like your life depends on it.  But nothing seems to be changing?

I know what can help!

Ever since the movie, The Secret came out back in 2006, the Law of Attraction has become the foundation for amazing manifesting results.  

The issue though, is it’s not the only law of the Universe. We can get so frustrated following LOA, that we forget there are other laws around that we need to put into consideration.

In fact, there are 12 Universal Laws out there.  When you aren’t getting anywhere in your manifesting, you have to look at the other laws. 

They can truly hold the secret to all of your manifesting desires!

These Laws were discovered after we observed how the Universe behaved.  They are the how the Universe is structured and functions.  If you gain more knowledge in these laws, you can better understand how they connect to manifesting.  And with this knowledge, you can without a doubt, create a life beyond your wildest dreams! 

Let’s take a look at each law and see how they can help you make your dreams your reality. They are in no particular order. Let’s start with the most famous law, the Law of Attraction.

Law of Attraction

Like attracts like.

This law reminds us that if we think about something, and we bring it into our reality. If you think about some pretty amazing things, the Universe hears these thoughts, and brings back to you some more of those pretty amazing things.  Ever think, “I don’t have any money!” And then, you become even worse off with money? It’s because the Universe heard you say you don’t have any money.  Since like attracts like, they bring you more of  “no money!” 

Law of Divine Oneness

Everything and everyone is connected. 

This law is super important to understand.  Since everything is connected, that means not one of us is better than or less than anyone else. The number one thing I have seen people do that blocks their manifesting abilities, is not believing in themselves.  We’re powerful spiritual beings!  We can do anything. Keep this Universal Law in your back pocket and watch how quickly things come to fruition for you.

Law of Vibration

Everything is made up of energy and has its own vibrational frequency.

This law is like the brother of Law of Attraction (LOA).  It helps you understand that every single thought, every word or action you make has a frequency.  Then, the LOA processes it and brings you more of that same energy vibration.  That is why it is critical to focus on what you DO want.  If you keep focusing on the good stuff, you’re carrying that vibration and the LOA will come in, and give you more of it. 

Law of Inspired Action

Taking action you’re lead to take.

Inspired means, “In Spirit”.  This is the most critical law that is often forgotten about.  You can’t just write down affirmations and stare at your vision board.  You have to tune in to guidance and take actions that you are guided to take.  How do you know if the action is Spirit lead?  One way to tell is if the action feels good and more often than not, it is something you haven’t done before.

Law of Compensation

You receive what you put out there.  Give freely, get freely.

Ever hear of this one before?  Have you noticed people with a lot of money, giving a lot of money away?  You get more of what you give.  So, if you want more time give more time. 

Law of Cause and Effect

Every action has an equal and opposite reaction.

This is the law where I give Spirit a break.  The truth is every single choice we make has a consequence whether it’s good or bad. So, if something isn’t happening for me, I trust that Spirit will bring it around when they’re able.  It just may mean they cannot do it right now because of the butterfly effect.  HINT: Don’t be sad if this happens to you because the Spirit rewards you with your patience and gives you something even better than you asked for. 

Law of Correspondence

As above, so below.

Your outer world is the reflection of your inner world, and this law reminds us of this.  So, if there is craziness in your outer world, you must change up your inner dialogue and behavior. This will help you excel the manifesting process. 

Law of Polarity

Everything has an opposite.

Imagine a magnet on the good thoughts you have and another on the not so good thoughts. These magnets are trying to connect to one another.  They’re drawn to each other, they can’t help it.  The stronger your connection is to the good thoughts, the further away the other magnet gets.  Hence, the easier it is for you to manifest! 

Law of Rhythm

All things come in cycles.

Know that the Universe is like a pendulum, in constant state of motion with its own natural rhythm.  Your life is like this too.  You’re going to feel down sometimes, people are going to break promises, you’re going to have challenges.  What’s important is for you not to allow your own personal pendulum go too far in either direction. 

Law of Perpetual Transmutation of Energy

Energy is forever moving.

Whenever I am feeling down and need a pick me up, I come to this law.  It helps me stay focused on my desires because it makes me remember that I am not helpless in any situation.  I can change my thoughts and feelings (and attract better vibes!) because energy is constantly moving. The truth is, lower vibrational thoughts (like depression, sadness, etc.) carry their own vibrational frequency.  You can change this by helping the energy get some momentum and move faster.  When this happens, the vibration changes to a higher frequency and therefore, changes those lower vibe thoughts to higher ones.  Love and compassion are the highest vibrating thoughts out there.  Heads up: This is why they say exercise, walking is super good for you. It helps you raise that vibration and become a manifesting magnet! 

Law of Gender

Everything has feminine and masculine energies.

I recently learned that giving is a masculine energy. Crazy, right?  You’d think with how nurturing women are with their family and friends that this would be a feminine trait.  It’s not though.  Receiving is the feminine way.  This is important because you have to remember to have balance.  Noticing if you’re giving too much, and not receiving enough can help you bring to life what you are wanting. 

Law of Relativity

Nothing is good or bad until compared to something else.

I call this the law of judgment.  We judge all of the time.  It doesn’t mean that you’re a snob or a bully.  This is natural for just about every one of us.  We judge things based on our past experience.  Our judgement is everywhere.  (This seat is soft! This music is loud…) Judgements can be compliments too! (She’s super pretty!  He has such a good voice.)  We say these things because we’re comparing them to something else we’ve already experienced.  How can this law help?  By noticing when we do this, and coming back to the place of things “just being.”

Following these laws has helped me manifest my house on a lake, a beautiful office, and my dream job.  Anytime I am at a loss on what to do next, I look back at these and pinpoint which one I am out of balance with.

Which law are you the most drawn to?  Are there any that are standing out to you that you feel that you need to apply right away? 

I’d love to hear from you! 

Short Article Review

• Twelve Universal Laws were discovered after we observed how the universe behaved.
• These 12 Laws hold the secrets of manifesting.
• The brother to the Law of Attraction (Law of Vibration) tells us, everything is made up of energy and has its own vibrational frequency.
• One of the MOST beneficial Laws to help with manifesting is the Law of Inspired Action.
• The Law of Compensation shows us the more abundance we give, the more we will get in return.  

The content in this article is for informational purposes only and is not intended as legal, tax, investment, financial, medical or other advice.  Always seek the advice of a licensed professional regarding any questions you may have. 

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Pressing pause vs. pushing through 

A few weeks ago, I was talking to a client about her experience of burnout.

She described the feeling of emptiness, hollowness and the sense of being utterly depleted.

The day after she recognized these feelings, she didn’t get up. Going to work seemed like an insurmountable mountain.

She didn’t go that day, or any day for the following six months.

For months, she had been pushing through, past her exhaustion, stress, and anxiety. She had never taken the time to press pause and simply acknowledge how she felt.

By the time she noticed, it was too late.

When was the last time you pressed pause?

In our fast-paced life, we rarely take the time to pause, take a few breaths and notice how we ACTUALLY feel.

And while ‘pushing through’ might work for a while, eventually, it catches up with us. Our body shuts down, our mental health plummets – stopping is no longer a choice.

After months of living in an undercurrent of uncertainty, many of us are running out of steam, having lived in our stress response for such a long time. 

Between the uncertainty of what the future holds, the lines between work and family life blurring, the endless hours of zoom calls and the general busyness of life, it’s easy to see why we may be feeling emotionally and physically drained. 

Gradually, we have exhausted every ounce of resilience we had.

More than ever, this is a time to nurture ourselves and our wellbeing. 

And I wonder… when was the last time that you pressed pause? 

I don’t have time to press pause…

Pressing pause or slowing down often feels like a luxury we just can’t afford. We’re either too busy or we feel that stopping for a moment would be indulgent…

Yet pressing pause for a few breaths is the simplest way to de-activate our stress response and experience a moment of calm. 

Not only will it help you to re-gain a sense of peace and clarity, but each pause will also contribute to developing greater resilience over time. Think of it as the deep, nourishing breath you take as you come up for air when you’re swimming. 

This pause is your oxygen. 

How to press pause?

If you are feeling anxious or a little wobbly at the moment, here are a few simple ways in which you can pause, refill your resilience reservoir, and navigate these times with more ease:

1. Press pause : pause what you are doing and take a few slow and deep breaths. Imagine breathing in the smell of your favorite flowers and blowing softly on a candle as you breathe out. It will help to calm your nervous system down.

2. Ground yourself : notice the soles of your feet resting on the ground and the unconditional support of the floor beneath you. Relax all the touch points between your body and the chair you are sitting on. Remind yourself that you are safe. 

3. Ask yourself these 2 simple questions : am I ok right now? What do I need? It will help you to come back to this moment and to give yourself the support you need to feel better resourced to cope.

4. Learn to feel anxiety without drowning in it or resisting it : lean in and allow the feeling to run through you, noticing what it feels like in your body. If you start feeling overwhelmed, pull gently back and practice grounding again (see step 2).

5. Shake it off : use movement to shift the stagnant stress energy out of your body. Run, dance, walk, or simply shake your body. Imagine the stress and anxiety being released as if it was dripping out of your fingertips. 

6. Practice investigating your thoughts : what’s on your mind that is keeping you feeling anxious? Is there another way you could be looking at your circumstances?

7. Nurture your wellbeing : nourish your body, prioritize sleep and bring into your life more of what gives you joy and replenishes you physically, mentally and spiritually. 

8. Choose to see the glass half full : practice gratitude. When you despair at the state of the world and feel somewhat hopeless, try expanding your perspective and noticing the nuggets of positivity that are also present in your life. What is going well? What gives you joy? 

Don’t be fooled by the simplicity of these steps. Building resilience is like sowing a parachute – whilst each individual stitch might feel pointless, they each play a role in strengthening the structure. 

So today, give yourself permission to press pause and build the resilience you need to cope with life’s ups and downs with more ease. 

Short Article Review

Pressing pause is often seen as a luxury, an indulgence that we don’t have time for. Yet it is vital to help us feel more emotionally resilient. In the times we live in, pressing pause is like coming up for air.

If you are feeling anxious or stressed at the moment, here are 8 simple steps you can take to feel calmer and more positive:

• Press pause and take a few deep breaths.
• Ground yourself by tuning in to your body.
• Ask yourself: am I ok right now? What do I need?
• Learn to feel anxiety without drowning in it or resisting it. 
• Shake it off: use movement to shift the stagnant stress energy out of your body.  
• Practice investigating your thoughts. 
• Nurture your wellbeing. 
• Choose to see the glass half full by practicing gratitude.

The information in this article is not intended to be a substitute for professional medical advice, diagnosis or treatment.  Always seek the advice of your healthcare provider regarding any questions you may have about any medical condition. 

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