Are You In A Bad Romance With Money?

Jul 16, 2020 | Finance

Elodie Petitjean is a holistic coach, serving women desiring to craft their own extraordinary life. View profile 


How would you describe your relationship with money? Is it a love and hate relationship? Is money your lover and pouring into your life easily? Is money the source of all evil?

Money is not the issue, it’s what you think about money that is!

“A thought is harmless unless we believe it. It’s not our thoughts, but our attachment to our thoughts, that causes suffering. Attaching to a thought means believing that it’s true, without inquiring. A belief is a thought that we’ve been attaching to, often for years.”

Byron Katie, Loving What Is: Four Questions That Can Change Your Life

It’s what we think about money that is responsible for our financial situation. What we think about money is what is real and true for us; even if it is not logical and crazy for us. The brain does not make a difference between right and wrong, it believes what we believe in. Often, these beliefs are not even conscious or cognitive, we acquire them as we grow up and if we do not question them, they become our reality. The good news is that you have the power to change them!


The Biggest Lie

Before we dive into your thoughts about money, let’s dismiss a big lie! Money is not the source of creation, you are! Do you remember the last time you wanted something so badly and you did not have the money for it yet? Remember this, how old were you? Did you create the money with an extra job, sold your belongings, borrowed money from your parents, took a loan? Did the lack of money stop you back then? No, right? You found a way to create this extra money because you wanted this so much. And then, you forgot how potent and magical you truly are to manifest what you truly desire.

When we grow up, we often use money as an excuse or justification for what we cannot or will not do, choose or have. Just be aware of what you think and say with money and everything else. Every word and thought you use are a blueprint to create your future.


Your Point Of Views Creates Your Financial Reality

To start with, what do you think about money?

  • Is money bad, the source of all evil?
  • Does money change people, relationship?
  • Money doesn’t grow on tree?
  • Money doesn’t buy happiness?
  • Money is not important?

List Everything That Comes To Your Mind When You Think About Money, Either Negative or Positive. I bet you will be more negative and that’s totally ok!

Next, what do you think about rich people?

  • Are they good or bad people?
  • Are they generous, caring or contrary selfish, bloodsucker, self-interested?
  • Have they made money fast, is it clean money?
  • Are poor people big hearted?

Let yourself be wild and list everything that you think about people having money.


What Is Your Truth About Money?

Now, look closely at all the things you just listed. All the things you catalogued about money are all limiting beliefs, lies, points of view that keeps you from creating, having, saving, spending, sharing money. Are these thoughts, beliefs, points of views yours or your parents, partner, family, friends, colleague or friends’ point of views about money?

Go back to your childhood now, what have you heard about money? What was your parent’s relationship with money? Was money a taboo or was it a topic to discuss freely at dinner? Did you lack money as a child? Did you hear your parents say : “We cannot afford this”?

What did you hear about money in your community, church? If we grow up with limiting beliefs about money, there is a pretty good chance that we will adopt them as real & true as we grew up. Your point of views about money, business, rich people, poverty will influence your money flows. You can now choose to keep only the beliefs, point of views that are actually true for you.


Money Is Energy

I would like for you to have a new perspective about money. Money is energy, like joy, gratitude, kindness. Money is inside of us. Money is all about allowing yourself to receive more. When you allow money to be part of your life, you will have more money. Money does not not buy happiness however it does contribute to create even more possibilities. Money was created by us a long time ago when the barter system was no longer working. Money did gather all religions, cultures & races, together. It was the first time people were unified using money.


A New Vibe For Your Brain

Remember earlier, I told you your thoughts and words you are using are a blueprint to create your future. You have approximately 60,000 thoughts a day. They are all old and recycled thoughts. So to change your frequency, change your thoughts. Self suggestions are really potent and powerful to program your brain with new empowering thoughts about money. It gives your brain a new melody to play. I challenge you to repeat out loud these affirmations, in front of you mirror every morning for the next 30 days, 3 times each: 

  • Money is important to me.
  • I really appreciate money.
  • I love money and money loves money.
  • I love making money.
  • I make money easily.
  • Money is energy.
  • I have enough money in my bank account and in my pocket.
  • I have enough money to spare and share and enough to show I care.
  • The more comfortable I am with money, the more powerful I become.
  • Talking about money is easy for me.

If some affirmations sound wrong for you, just keep practicing and see if it lightens up over the next few days. If you come up with your own positive affirmation go for it! Your own affirmations, mantras will always be more powerful.

What new point of views could you adopt to support a positive attitude and create more money in your life?

What is your biggest takeaway, insight?


Short Article Review 

  • Be aware of your thoughts. your thoughts with and around money are the ones responsible for your current financial reality.
  • Money is not the source of creation, you are! You are in charge of your money life.
  • Are these limiting thoughts even yours? Select only the point of views that are real and true for you about money. Dismiss all the rest.
  • Money is energy. Allow yourself to receive money. Money gives you more possibilities.
  • A new vibe for your brain. Choose empowering and supporting affirmations about money and practice them every day.


The content in this article is for informational purposes only and is not intended as legal, tax, investment, financial or other advice.  Always seek the advice of a licensed professional regarding any financial questions you may have. 

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